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Yes, she is. We've seen it. How could she not be? She knows Luz lies to her. She's asked Luz to stop and Luz hasn't stopped. No healthy person would tolerate such an arrangement. Raine didn't but Raine is an adult. Amity is an emotionally damaged child. She doesn't know what a healthy relationship looks like. Neither does Luz.
Amity has lost all interest in all parts of her life that don't involve Luz. That is neither normal nor healthy. That is not a relationship. It's codependency.
Amity lives to be Luz' "awesome girlfriend" even as Luz lies to and emotionally withdraws from her. Even as Luz looks to Hunter for the emotional support she won't seek from Amity. Even as Luz confides in Hunter the way she won't confide in Amity. Amity is not in love. She's having a crush. She doesn't have the emotional awareness or maturity to understand how badly Luz is treating her.
(Edited by Hawas1983)
She seems to have the emotional awareness and maturity to recognize that Luz doesn’t do it to be cruel or abusive, but because she knows how troubled and in pain Luz truly is, from her stress to fulfill her promise to her mother to struggling to deal with her father’s lost.
It doesn't matter if Luz intends to be cruel or abusive. Luz' intent doesn't matter. Luz' behavior has the practical effect on Amity of being cruel and abusive and Amity is suffering stress and anxiety as a result.
Amity has no concept of Luz being troubled and in pain as demonstrated by her treatment of Willow. If Amity genuinely had that level of empathy she would have resolved her issues with Willow a long time ago. Since Amity has done nothing regarding her history with Willow whose trouble and pain was directly caused by Amity herself, the idea that she has any such concerns for Luz is inconsistent with Amity's own demonstrated capacity for cruelty.
Lumity is not an abusive relationship. Amity and Luz have risked their lives for each other numerous times and Luz would do anything for Amity, even give up her own life for her if it came to it. their relationship isn’t perfect and Luz could do better with keeping her secrets and painful feelings to herself, but that doesn’t mean she is abusive. It’s absolutely nothing like what Odalia did to her.
The fact they have been together for 4 years and are just as loving towards each other as ever is a further proof to this.
Lumity is an emotionally abusive relationship for Amity as she is suffering the effects of emotional abuse. She is suffering stress and anxiety as a direct result of Luz lying to her and continuing to lie to her even after Amity asked her to stop.
Amity cannot trust anything Luz says to her because she knows Luz lies and won't stop lying to her.
Luz also withdraws emotionally from Amity. She keeps secrets from her and was willing to physically abandon her. She confides in Hunter and seeks out Hunter for emotional support.
As for being in love with each other for 4 years, that was fan service which is all that Watching and Dreaming was. Luz and Amity were never in love. They were crushing on each other. They were 14 year old children when they started crushing on each other.
Neither Luz nor Amity have the first clue as to what a true romantic relationship and commitment is and they've had no opportunity to learn if their relationship experience comes only from each other. Luz has demonstrated that by her lying and Amity has demonstrated that by her anxiety and inability to challenge Luz and walk away from her bad behavior.
Raine has demonstrated the healthy response to being lied to and emotionally abandoned in a relationship. Raine walked away.
(Edited by Hawas1983)